I am waving the white flag. Or crying in front of the toilet after being kicked in the shins. Either one.
There are good things happening. The kid does not want to wear a diaper…especially a wet one. He takes it off if we put one on him. And here’s the kicker. He stays dry. He has excellent bladder control. And when he has to pee he will bring us a diaper. He will walk to the changing table, grab a diaper, and bring it to us. And follow us until we put it on him. He will even go as far as laying on the floor with his legs spread eagle.
Even in doing ALL this…the kid will not sit or pee on the potty. He screams like he’s being hurt. We’ve attempted to hold him on it but he gets so stressed that it actually is doing more damage than good. And he can deliver a damn good kick to the shins.
We’ve tried bribing, rewarding, withholding. I’ve tried charts. I’ve tried a potty chair, a seat on the big toilet, peeing outside, having him pee his underwear, peeing standing up. He’s watched Jamie. We’ve read books, movies, etc. Lately I’ve even tried gently holding a diaper on him while he’s sitting on the potty with hopes of removing it once he started to go. And lastly I tried Gerber Training Pants. Finding training pants in his size was a success in itself. But no go.
His stress level over the toilet is at an extreme which honestly means we get stressed over it. We try. He cries. We try again. He cries louder. What person would willingly want that stress.
He will even go as far as pointing to the toilet when he wants something as if to say….’if I sit on there I can have what I want.’ The only problem is….he won’t actually sit on the damn toilet.
Nothing works. He has never successfully peed in a toilet. I’m at a loss.
His therapists have him sit on the toilet at school. No pee.
He’s going to be five in 3 months.
It’s time to get creative. I need help.
Diapers are so expensive. Plus, Cooper is in the biggest size. And to be perfectly, completely honest, I am just plain sick of it. He pees through his diaper every night. That’s icky sheets and icky clothes. I’ve even noticed a stinky smell at times with him which means baths every single night.
I’ve seen on autism message boards that other moms feel this way. They’ve said things like ‘I am so sick of changing diapers!’ I feel you moms. I am too.
Thankfully Sawyer is potty trained at 2 1/2 years old. Potty training him was so easy. He was a natural. It was even enjoyable. Fun. He loves wearing underwear and peeing like the big kids.
Does anyone have any suggestions? At this point I’ll try anything. I read something somewhere about cutting a hole in the diaper and having them sit on the toilet. That’s a great idea. Except he won’t sit on the toilet.
My other irrational fear is that Cooper isn’t ‘calm’ enough to stand up and pee. I don’t know if he could stand still for 30 seconds.
So……..I’m open for suggestions. Please.